What if all your life you were told that you were beautiful/handsome by those around you?
By the occasional stranger, the relatives, the person who has a crush on you, the friends, the anonymous email, through a poke via facebook and so on.
Bare with me now but what if…
it just wasn’t true?
Growing up with people numerously complimenting you on your beauty at certain stages in your life is bound to make that person regardless of who they are confident that they truly are a sight to behold.
But what if most people thought you looked average (besides the ones who think otherwise) or even completely unattractive?
Yes ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’ or is ‘inside’ of you bla bla bla… but when you walk into a crowded mall, store , or restaurant with your head held up high and don’t get any obvious glances, what do you chalk that up to?
“They’re merely too shy to make any obvious indication that they’re really heads over heels with how good I look!”
“They’re probably going to talk about me the minute I’m out of their view!”
Do you simply dismiss the idea that you can’t be anything but gorgeous? And that there must be something wrong with these people if they deem you anything but that?
Perhaps the people who’ve been telling you that you’re good looking throughout the years were influenced by your personality, the surroundings in which they first saw you or regularly see you or maybe they were lying and just trying to sound polite?
It’s hard to explain but if you see a person on a regular basis, you tend to see them in different shades of the spectrum, in a different light so to speak.
They might look sick on a particular day or just plainly look terrible but because you’ve seen them many times in the usual location, you’ve seen their other side in which they look stunning. Thus, as a result you can sort of tell how attractive a person is even in their ‘off’ days.
However, if you encounter a random stranger, they don’t have this ‘built up defense’ that the person you regularly see has due to them being around you more often on days where they genuinely glow with positive energies.
A person you never considered attractive for example might one day smile, laugh or light their cigarette in a way that just totally changes your perspective on their physical appearance.
So really, physical beauty comes from those moments (or at least in my opinion)… those elusive moments that seemingly come once every now and then but only in the eyes of someone willing to capture those moments… ya3ni someone who really sits down and scans his or her surroundings with an open mind.
The average person won’t see these moments for what they are, the ones that truly capture the beautiful part of a person… they’ll just look past them as if nothing happened. If they saw a meteor shower, their first reaction would probably be like ‘oh hey it’s hail’ or something stupidly ridiculous like that.
They wouldn’t have the capacity to determine what something really is about, the ability to look at something seemingly simplistic to the naked and untrained eye when in reality or under a masterful gaze is quite complex.
Mathalan I’ve seen some street cleaners with really gorgeous smiles and laughs that just make you go ‘wow Mashallah that cheered me up 9ij’ and then you come to work and you see the fake smiles and laughs… there’s no comparison ugh it’s horrible.
Sigh…
November 17, 2008 at 12:09 pm |
physical features do have an important role in that impression per se, like you said when you walk into a mall mathalan because people only see the outside oo theyll never get to know you
so mathalan a beautiful person who is bad at heart would turn more heads than an average-looking good person
but some people, no matter how average/ugly they look attract your attention with wat they do even if you dont know them…and like you said, its always that genuine smile that catches my eye and turns any other physical feature into something irrelevant
November 18, 2008 at 12:00 am |
interesting blog, you make a good point.
I’ve definitely met people who seem to be overly confident in themselves when they really shouldn’t be… but I always thought they did that to boost their own self esteem because no one was complimenting them and not the other way around. Like if I think I am beautiful and project that idea into the world then everyone else will think so too and give me the attention I need. Know what I mean? Seems like a very fake confidence to me… the girl looking around her at the mall is really just crying for attention and copes with not getting any by lying to herself.
On a side note, your description of moments of physical beauty leads me to believe you have a very artistic eye.
November 18, 2008 at 11:04 am |
if all procrastinators think like this..damn, there should be more of our kind!:P *Hope you keep procrastinating if it means we get to read more of these kinda posts!*
really interesting insight! It also explains why people find the person they love beautiful or handsome, when in reality…well…i don’t want to be mean, and they’ve not created themselves…and looks don’t matter..*fumbles around for more excuses*…they’re not..? and if things go wrong, down the years they start thinking, ‘what on earth did i see in that person? it definitely wasn’t looks!’
my 2cents worth:
a drop dead gorgeous person might turn heads in a crowd, but that’s what feeds their conceit, and turns them into obnoxious stuck-ups. Eventually, within a while, their attitude will turn all in the crowd away, but they’ll find another crowd to mesmerize…MOMENTARILY. This will keep going on for the rest of their lives, til beauty betrays them & aging ‘takes ‘em in’. Now, you’ve got wrinkly ol’ prunes who may or may not be tryin’ to preserve their youth *making themselves look worse in the process*, with falling hair and teeth who still think highly of themselves…which – for obvious reasons – is absurd. lost looks + messed up personality = a crowd stirrer *for the OPPOSITE reasons*
*sorry, 6welt 3layk!*
November 26, 2008 at 6:18 am |
my mom NEVER gave my sisters and i compliments. i think NOW i know why…